One of the main goals of Consensus Collaboration Scotland lawyers, financial specialists and family consultants is to help couples going through separation or divorce to put their children first.
With school being the place that a child spends more time than anywhere other than home, it can prove to be a crucial ally in helping them cope during and after a divorce, writes Rachel Hayward, a member of Consensus Collaboration Scotland who is an experienced counsellor and psychotherapist.
It is not unusual for parents to over-estimate their children’s resilience and under-estimate the impact of their divorce on them. Yet, if not well managed, divorce can have a seriously negative effect on children, and at different stages in the process they may feel confused, angry, isolated, ashamed, anxious, insecure, guilty, depressed or sad. The impact on them now and in the future will very much be influenced by what you as parents and others involved in their life do and say (both to them and in their presence).
Although you are no longer a couple, you should continue to work together as parents, alongside the school, because the wellbeing of your child will depend on your ability to collaborate in their best interests.
If you are considering a separation or divorce and have children, please contact us for further advice on how to put them first.
Another excellent resource for young people whose parents are separating or divorcing is Voices in the Middle, with all the content on the website produced by young people themselves.
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