The holidays can be stressful for parents, from organising childcare, finances to keeping the children entertained for weeks on end. But the first holiday period following separation or divorce can be even more difficult. Whether it’s the prospect of a new routine, further negotiations or the reality of holidaying separately, the path doesn’t always run smoothly.
So how can parents agree a holiday schedule that works? Rachel Weiss, an experienced counsellor and member of CCS who founded the Perth based Rowan Consultancy, offers her expert advice:
Recognising them and dealing with them in a healthy way rather than letting things escalate and go sour is the main thing.
Remember that divorce isn’t just between two people; consider grandparents, the wider family, exes’ partners and their children, who will all want to spend time with the children over the holidays.
If you have a good relationship with your ex-spouse, you may want to consider sharing previous family traditions, if you can handle these without tensions and fights it may help children adjust to these new experiences.
If you’re experiencing the school holidays for the first time as a separated parent, contact one of our professionals for any further information.
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